Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Protect your children

In the recent months and days, we have been witnessing a depressing phenomenon of child abuse in different forms. This has been constantly troubling my mind - not just because I am a mother myself, but also because it is so shameful and humiliating.

I read somewhere that a study in India showed that 2 out of 3 children are physically abused. Both boys are girls are victims. If this is true, then it is certainly alarming.

The disturbing fact is that in most cases, it is the care-takers who become the abusers. It is also shameful that extended family members also commit the crime.

Children abused by family members keep the secret to themselves out of fear and it is later they tell their friends. Sadly, mothers do all they can to console their children, but precious little to bring it out in the open. 

The responsibility of protecting the children lies with the parent first. Parents must remember that it leaves a deep scar on the psychic of a child and has the potential of deeply affecting the children's emotional and mental development. Sexual abuse has immediate as well as long-term effect on the child, from emotional, behaviourial and physchologial disorders.

Child sexual abuse is one of the most atrocious crimes imaginable - it is an appaling violation of trust, and breach of our commitment and responsibility to protect children.


Parents need to talk to the children openly and educate them about such offenses. Children must be comfortable in speaking to their parents if they are subject to any such offense. When children are encouraged to trust their parents and openly discuss such matters, it is easier to find a solution. Otherwise, it leaves a deep wound in the mind of the child which may never ever fade away.


If you come across any child who needs help, please contact Childline www.childlineindia.org. Childline is India's first 24 hour, free, emergency phone outreach service for children in need of care and protection. Dial 1098 to access the service.

There are several books which parents can use as a tool to educate children about child abuse. One book I came across is a book titled Good Touch Bad Touch - by Teresa Connor. It helps the reader know the difference between proper and improper touches. Here is the link to the book http://www.amazon.com/Good-Touch-Bad-Learning-Improper/dp/1448689546.

Children have every right to live in a safe and secure environment. Let us do everything possible in our capacity to ensure that their dignity is respected.

Cheers

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Annamalai Murugan Temple

Main deity at the Annamalai Murugan Temple

The Nilgiris district comprises of six taluks - Udhagamandalam (Ooty), Kundah, Coonoor, Kotagiri, Gudalur and Pandalur.

The drive on road from Ooty or Coonoor to Kundah is a pleasant experience. There are several interesting places to visit.

I will give you some information about the Annamalai Murugan Temple in Kundah. This is a famous Murugan Temple in the Nilgiris, and devotees from the Nilgiris and even beyond like Coimbatore throng this temple during festival days.

The Annamalai hill top is a calm, serene and picturesque location surrounded by lush green tea estates and silver oak trees. It is about 30 kms from Ooty and Coonoor. Take the road from either Ooty or Coonoor to Kundah dam or Manjoor, and from there, locals should be able show you the way to the temple.

The website www.annamalaiashramtrust.org has all information about this temple. Please do also take a look at the picture gallery in the website for awesome pictures of the temple and its surroundings.

This hill top is a very calm place to meditate, and I strongly recommend you to visit this temple during next visit to this beautiful hill station.


May the almighty bless all of us abundantly this New Year.

Cheers